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WOMEN TAKE DATING CONTROL
Women in today's dating relationship world have it harder than ever dispite all the personals and dating sites out there. In this give me news faster, sex exploitation and hip hop era it seems that music and the media are really trying hard to turn the personals and dating sites itno sexy women objects sites. Women today complain about having a hard time finding a "good man" But they are out there in more numbers than you may think. I think of myself as a good, romantic, sexy, respectful and caring man so here is my take. A mans point of view of what women should demand from us before considering a relationship...
1) Command respect: Tell a man up front that you must be respected at all times. Tell him you must be spoken to and treated respectfully in public and private. If he shows objection in even the slightest way, get rid of him !
2) Be respectful yourself: You will never get respect from others if you don't have it for yourself. Don't sit there and tell a man you are a lady while you dress with your stuff hanging out or have a web page on a dating site or personals showing body parts. Don't get me wrong, being and dressing sexy is great but don't cheapen yourself. You may get their attention for a minute but real men don't respect that in a stranger.
3) Make a man earn your time: I don't care how much you may want to be with a guy, still make that man earn your time. Don't make it that easy for him to see you its one thing giving your time on the dating sites or personals but make it hard in person. If a man earns your time, he will respect you much more. If making him earn your time drives him away, too bad then he's not worth it but you are "worth it"
4) Take his number, don't give him yours: When you first meet a guy keep total control of the situation especially if you meet on a dating site or personals , by taking his number and not giving yours at first. Then as you talk to him decide if he has "earned the right to have your number. His reaction to you when you call will tell you something about a relationship with him.
5) Ask him why: While in conversation whenever he tells you what he thinks ask him why he feels that way. You will learn allot more about a man and how he will act in a relationship if you understand why he thinks the way he does rather than by what he thinks.
6) Learn about his profession and how he feels about work: If you are looking for a relationship make sure a man has something to bring to the table. I don't mean how much he makes but more like if he is a stable worker. There are way too many women who end up supporting a man these days. "Don't do it" no matter how cute, nice or how sexy or how good he is in bed or how many sad stories he tells you. "Don't do it" !
7) Learn about his friends and family: Don't take a man too seriously until you have seen how others view him. He may seem wonderful to you but if his own family doesn't bother with him and his friends don't trust him. Chances are if thats the case he is hiding allot from you.
8) Hold off on the intimacy: Another case of making him earn your time. Your body is a beautiful temple so treat it that way, its not for everybody. While most men want intimacy quickly the "real men" will respect you for not being easy and believe it or not will feel more special that you allowed him that share it with you.
9) Treating you good is not enough: He may treat you like a special queen but until you see how he treats others you will never really know a man. He is not a good person if he treats you great and is mean to everyone else. That simply means that he wants something from you and after he gets it, you'll be just like everyone else. A good man is good to all people.
10) Don't get ahead of yourself: Don't ever think after just a couple of good dates "Can he be the one ? " If you start asking that question too soon it will often have you making someone out to be something they are not. Remember, time is your friend the more you take your time the more you see about him. Bad men, liars and users usually will expose themselves if you just give them enough time to. Don't be in such a rush, it will help you weed out the bad men and keep good ones.
There you have it ! Now it seems like allot to ask but please go ahead and ask ! You may argue that all this stuff might make it harder to get a man and you'd be right. However take quality over quantity after all since the goal is to find not just a man but a "Good man" !
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